I would like to define a friendship as a process. First you both start off as strangers, then acquaintances, then you both realize that there are many things in common and you both start being friends. This is called a process, right? I choose to think that there's a process within this friendship process called the 'milestone processes'. When the friendship hits a certain milestone in the process, its either a make it or break it moment. The process in which you make the decision to make or break the friendship you share with your friend.
What exactly is this 'milestone process'?
In all my friendships shared with my best friends, I can guarantee that there was at least one intense moment where there were disagreements or, there were sudden texts like, 'xxx, can I talk to you about something?'. I have to admit that these conversations are the worst and can evoke the shittiest feelings in you. These milestone processes does not necessarily need to be a feedback session but it can be a moment when the both of you get in trouble, cry and get sad together.
But it is when you through such shitty, sticky and awkward situations with your friend that you experience a milestone in this friendship you both share. I guess this can only happen when both you and your friend are both mature and perhaps forward looking? I guess if you genuinely love each other as friends, I believe that love in the friendship can overcome anything. Sound like love but it is love.
So, GUYS. When you experience something sour with your friends. FEAR NOT. YOU CAN TURN DISAPPOINTMENTS INTO OPPORTUNITIES. Understand from her perspective and it is only with a different perspective that you can grow as a person. Sieve out all the opportunities you can gain from this shitty process and be positive about it. Quit being a sore. Quit being a chauffeur for your negative emotions. Start being the gem and the light in the darkness of your friendship.
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